Saturday, September 29, 2012

BNN documentary about Wallen



I suddenly found out that BNN has made a documentary about De Wallen in Amsterdam. This documentary is mostly in English (with Dutch subtitles), so I believe most people in the world will comprehend the documentary. It is a part of a series called 'Je zal het maar zijn' (this means something like: Imagine that you are this way). This episode about De Wallen is called 'Afl. 1 - de Wallen anno 2012 - Thema: De wallen anno 2012'. Sophie Hilbrand interviews a Bulgarian female prostitute called Lina, a Polish male prostitute called Mark and some Australian young men who want to visit prostitutes on De Wallen in Amsterdam.

Obviously, I am most interested in the story of Lina. Four years ago she wanted to work voluntarily in prostitution, but she ended up being exploited on De Wallen by a pimp anyway. She escaped (via a client), and since two years ago she works independently as a prostitute on De Wallen. She estimates that 80% of the prostitutes on De Wallen have pimps. She also says that many tourists on De Wallen are jerks who don't respect the women behind the windows. She says that behind every girl you see behind the windows there is some really sad story.

Overall this is not a very positive story, but it is good that she won her independence back. And she has found a nice circle of friends in the Netherlands (mostly foreigners it seems) who are also interviewed in the documentary.

(In the second edition of the magazine S-work - magazine for sex workers published in 2012 by the Red Thread, it is actually explained that Lina escaped 4 years ago from her pimp after being exploited by him for one month. She already worked in prostitution in Bulgaria. She is 26 years old, and her boyfriend works in a restaurant, and thanks to him she got her life back on track. She says plenty of Bulgarian girls still have a pimp.)

The website of the series is here:
http://jezalhetmaar.bnn.nl/zijn

More about Lina over here:


More about Mark here:


More about the Aussies here:


And in case you missed it, there's also this documentary (not related to BNN):


The documentary is called Red Light Blues - A documentary by Izzy Abrahami - Is this the swan song of Amsterdam's Red Light District (Abrahami-netz TV productions, released in 2008 or so). It is about the famous red light district in Amsterdam, called the 'Wallen'. Also some prostitutes are interviewed.

12 comments:

Pavitra said...

Shame on me .....
I came to your blog at the end of a search for tales or stories of prostitutes looking for some enticement ... Previously I had been entertained ( :-( ) by the diary of this Nevada prostitute and little bit less by the one of this english escort "Belle de Jour" but was looking for more ....
I didn't find what I was looking for, but nevertheless stayed on your blog fascinated by your fight against your negative tendancies and mesmerized by the quality of your reflexion and the deep insights you developed on male domination and violence towards women ....
I think you took the only possible decision by choosing to become asexual... Although for me asexual is the one who doesn't feel any sexual urge (blessed ones !!), whereas you and me would more qualify for non-sexual mean refusing sex either with the self or others ...
I have been myself abstinent for now 20 years (means no masturbation and no sexual relationships), but the disease which is definitely plaguing my life is pornography : Fast, Affordable and immediately Available -only one click away- which means that I almost always lost my fight to stay away from it more than 3 weeks ... Anyway, the fight is already lost even before I go to such or such website, since the movie is already playing in my head (like you, fantasizing days in advance your encounter with the prostitutes ...) And like you, perfectly knowing the hell most porn actresses are living through and how debasing it is for her and us ....
Still, we are on a battlefield and we can be wounded and fall but we don't have right to flee from it ...
I hope for you that you will come again to your senses and start resisting again ... It is an almost impossible to win battle, since tentation is omnipresent and everybody is nowdays finding this oversexed world normal (= what was once a taboo is now the norm), but it is a worthwile one and you can definitely credit yourself for having the guts to take it on board...
Good luck my friend ....

Donkey said...

Good to meet a likeminded-person. I still don't know really what to do with my sexuality. Lately I discovered a brothel which I call the temple of love. The prostitutes gave me an unexpected treatment. They French-kissed me and cuddled with me. This was very exciting for me! But this excitement only happened during the first two times. The third time I got used to it. So, no sexual excitement anymore! That's the problem for me: I only get sexually excited if something shocking or unexpected happens. The prostitutes suddenly kissing me was very unexpected, so I got sexually excited. The moment I knew what was precisely going to happen, I didn't feel excitement anymore.

I have have succeeded in being asexual for three months some time ago. I want to give it another try. Right now I'm studying the website: http://yourbrainonporn.com/. It explains that pornography desensitizes people. This has also happened to me I guess. That's why I do all these wicked things like visiting prostitutes or watching humiliating porn. The websites advises total sexual abstinence for several months. Then your sexuality returns to normal, so this is what I'm going to try. The website also says that other things will improve in your life, such as being less depressed or becoming more social towards other people, less agitated, etc....

Pavitra said...

Yeah ... Please do that, try again ....
The world need such souls as you (and hopefully me) TO PROVE that whereas everyone thinks it is compulsory, it is indeed possible to abstain and live in an other way...
I would also recommend http://www.no-porn.com a more than 10 years old site which has a WEALTH of knowledge about overcoming sex-addiction, since this what we are : sex-addicts ... This addiction beeing far more difficult to overcome than the others, from what heroin and alcohol addicts themselves say, because images are deep rooted/wired in our brains and we are the suppliers-dealers for our own endorphines ....
Who knows ? Since it seems you have a lot of free time, you could even - as you did with the feminist writings or all the press and media excerpts you provide- compile the most useful advices or best pieces of reflexion you find on those sites, for your readers ...??
Also have a look - and maybe dedicate an entry on your blog, so we can talk about it- at the experiments of Mahatma Ghandi on brahmacharyah (=continence) since - like Dworkin, but in an other way - he had discovered the relationship between sexuality and violence .... http://www.rkvenkat.org/chastity.html

Donkey said...

I will look at the websites you refer to.

I think it will be difficult to become totally chaste. My plan lately was to indulge into sexuality, but only in the temple of love. Problem is that I don't want to visit the temple anymore. Too overstimulated. I am basically an asexual inside the temple of love, but at home behind my computer I unfortunately am not! I want it to be the other way around actually. But perhaps becoming an asexual is really better. I still have to find out.

It is often said that all romantic love is an addiction. Same for sexuality. It is said that being in love releases chemicals which you become addicted to. In much the same way as cocaine and heroin. Same for sexuality. So everybody who is in love or who enjoy sex are basically love or sex addicts, technically speaking. Some are only more addicted than others. We are merely the extreme cases.

Are you a man or a woman by the way?

Pavitra said...

Aaaaahhhh …..Man over there ….. I am afraid the testosterone toad sat on my life :-(… This to say that I share your analysis on this topic, even if there can obviously be some exceptions like your friend Zondares…
Equally I am fond of Jung theory that males are by nature more lustful than females… since females invest a lot more in the act of copulation :  the limited number of offspring they can carry, the dangers of pregnancy and childbirth, the increased nutritional requirements, the danger from predators... all, historically, served to make the choice of a mate an important consideration. ... Males, on the other hand, in their wish to perpetuate the race can and do walk away from the consequences of copulation and thus for them the very act is more casual… As long as some sperm gets to where it should, the male is doing alright…. So females tend to more fussy about who they have relations with….  Females "know" their children are theirs; males never know for sure.… So it is important for them to have one single partner so as to convince him he is the father and ensure that he will contribute to their genetic survival…. (could maybe explain the strange attachment of some prostitutes to their pimps …)
Talking on this topic, you will probably be delighted to hear that one of the intuition you had in your period of purity/asexuality is actually coming true (*) !!! Check this article of the Guardian about reproduction without sex : http://www.guardian.co.uk/lifeandstyle/2012/aug/17/sex-reproduction-aarathi-prasad
(*)Yeah…man, those were the times when your thinking was clear, your churnings sharp and your decisions bold …. Whereas you yourself now confess that you are in a state of confusion …
No wonder about that … If as stated on the website you visited http://yourbrainonporn.com/ after abstinence for some monthes things improve in your constitution and you can think more clearly, the reverse is also true and by indulging in degrading practices your mind and intellect GRADUALLY BECOME DULL ….
Since you and me are on the same boat, I feel entitled to speak a little straightforwardly to you …. : an other evidence of that fact is the gross way in which you are deluding and deceiving yourself with this Temple of Love … Whereas it has been since ages a mean of mental safety for the prostitutes not to french kiss, the fact they are doing it now only shows that one more taboo has been broken and some more depth in degradation has been reached … Picture yourself in the same situation and having to kiss, lick and let your body be used by so many strangers in one day .. How is it possible not to endure the mental consequences of it … ??
So I hope that you will soon start again to stand your ground and spread the news as you did once …

Donkey said...

Yes, it sounds illogical to believe that people would allow this to happen to them isn’t it? Strangely enough, I find the thought sexually arousing to think about being a beautiful young woman and then to have intimate sex with an ugly stinking guy.

I don’t know what to believe. There is research (notable the two Dutch reports about the sociale positie van prostituees) which indicate that the mental condition (level of stress) of prostitutes is no different than of people in general (or to be more precise, compared to people who visit a doctor and fill in a questionnaire about stress-related problems).

I so much prefer to believe that forced prostitution isn’t a big deal, or that prostitutes are not damaged by their work. And…, I rarely hear about forced prostitution in the type of brothel which the Temple of Love belongs to. So I think everything’s alright. I hope…..

You are right that we don’t need romantic relationships to produce and take care of children. A woman could go to a sperm bank. In principle we could decide to all live in small living communities. The children could be raised by the small community a woman lives in. There is no need for a heterosexual relationship.

Perhaps becoming an asexual again is not a bad idea. Last night I spent some money on a camgirl again. I felt so embarrassed the morning after. :(

This pattern of behavior is repeating itself again and again. First there is sexual excitement, then there is anger, and then I want to stop it all, then I start all over again. It is a vicious cycle.

You tell me by the way that you still watch porn but never masturbate?

Pavitra said...

Ok please bear with me …
First because it is a little bit complicated ….
Secondly because it's a joke …..

Truth is I am into Yoga and in this practice they talk about awakening the Kundalini or inner energy (see http://tinyurl.com/8wh8y6d) ..
Amongst other techniques, by choosing purity (chastity) you prevent the gross release of sexual energy and are thus able to channel it upwards so that it can be transmuted and used by the higher nervous centers (called chakras) to awaken more subtle and powerful forms of energy and take you into deeper states of awareness and awakening ….
It is interesting to note that all the great people of every spiritual traditions worlwide have also come to the same conclusion (although not always explaining it physically ) and advocate the state of sexual celibacy to uplift the self.
So this I am doing, but I am still stuck in the lower chakras/stages, with my mind still lusting, remembering in loop -and mentally improving- scenes of my past sexual life, fantasizing about almost any women I cross in the streets and of course -since the advent of the internet- relishing online pornography… Which is quite a predicament since whereas most of males will indulge in it only for a few hours at a time and once they will have manually "release the pressure" will stop, for me the excitement never stops since I don't discharge and thus I can stay for hours/days/nights hypnotized by the images on the screen …. :-)
So in this way it is indeed A JOKE because not only I have merely superficially renounced (like Ghandi explains in his text), but I am probably more sexually obsessed than most of the people ….
Still I am proud of what I am doing and even feel like sort of a spiritual colossus for being able to do what almost no other man is able to do (= no sexual relationship with others or the self) and just need to take it up to the next step, which will be the restraint of any sexual thought, since everything is happening at this level ….
I hope I don't look to much as a fool to you ….
If not, I would be tempted to propose you an alliance or a pact ….
Like alcoholic anonymous or narcotic anonymous whose aim and object is to live without drinking "one day at a time" and namely stay away from that first drink which then escalates in all the subsequent others, we could take a pledge to one another : me not to have any sexual thought during the day (or at least stop it at once when it occurs) -and consequently no pornography as well- and you to stay free from prostitution and any kind of sex activities online …. We could then report to each other on a specific webpage of your site (or by mail if you prefer) to keep us motivated, as well as having a written record of our progresses ….
Just proposing, since it is not quite clear from your writings at which stage of your reflexions you are currently….
In between all the best to you ….

Pavitra said...

Last but not least : Not only I am proud but also SURE it is the way to go, be it only by looking at the present state of the world and being able to see how some of its biggest plagues : prostitution, pornography (including child porn & bestiality), sexual tourism, human trafficking, sexual harassment, rape, adultery and then divorce, child abuse, STD, HIV etc… are linked to the uncontrollable sex urge …

Donkey said...

I have done yoga too in the past, but I'm not really into spiritism. I don't believe that anymore.

Perhaps I could give it a try again. Not visiting porn sites and prostitutes. I think it is a noble cause. But there is still a lot of doubt within me while I am saying this.

You can find my email-address on my profile-page (click on my profile on the top right).

I think I can already predict what will happen: I will visit porn sites and prostitutes anyway. As always.

Independent girls said...

I have read the essence of your posts and I would like to share my experience also with you. I got more careless when i was getting more call from a city because it was difficult for me to manage and now the situation become completely different I am sitting over here full day without calls. I have created a site to be mixed with the guys and for getting more calls.

Mark van der Beer said...

I don't know Lina, but she is telling the truth. Too bad most of you focus on the fact if there's human trafficking or not, while Lina is more focuses on the fact how all people treat prostitutes.
And indeed as she also tells, the girls know very well what job they come to do here, and why etc. But like she also explains, she had a case of some Bulgarian boy 'saving' her money for her. So in fact she wasn't forced or anything to do this job, but her money got stolen by someone she trusted, simple as that.

And besides that, it's also nice to see Udy and Erica in this episode. They're two very good friends of my girlfriend, and they're always very nice to her.

So for all those people thinking girls are forced, their passport gets stolen, threats of pimps killing the parents if the girls don't work. Most of those stories are bullshit.
But like Lina tells, there are people who will take disadvantage of a girl, because she's trusting them too much. Most girls however keep making the same mistake over and over again. And in my opinion, if you make the same dumb mistake, of giving someone else your money for him to 'keep it save', over and over again, than you're just as dumb as fuck and you almost deserve it.

Let's be honest. How many people would give someone else 20.000 euro, who they met not too long again, and believe him to keep that money 'save' for you. Honestly?

Donkey said...

Mark, you are a very hard and tough person. I think many people would agree with me.

I notice that the Red Light Blues Doc is gone! Mmmmm, is there a replacement?